Marriage!

Why do people have an aversion towards marriage?

Specifically, why are Christian people developing an aversion towards marriage?

I've heard (Christian) people say:

"marriage is overrated"

"I don't need a piece of paper to make my love valid."

"Why get married when more than half of all marriages end in divorce?"

"I've never seen a happy married couple."

"Why would I want to restrict myself with marriage?"

As a married Christian, I actually feel insulted when I hear people refer to something I cherish as some sort of foul object. They say that marriage is overrated.

Well, who rated it?

Marriage is more than a piece of paper and if you don't believe that then you don't deserve the gift of marriage.

As Christians, we have to realize that life and the morals that govern our lives are not up to us to decide. We have a road map. The Bible is not just summer reading. If the Bible values and praises marriage, how can you be disdainful towards it?

Whether you go to church regularly or not, the New Testament is the foundation for Christianity. And while some ideas and passages are up for debate and left open to interpretation, the rules of marriage are not. In the Old Testament, there are even chapters dedicated to praising the value of having a good wife. Have you forgotten that marriage has been important since Genesis (2:24)?

Marriage is more than a piece of paper. It's a covenant with God. There is joy and power in promising God that you will love, honor, respect, and cherish someone. There is such beauty in knowing that you have chosen the father or mother of your children, the grandfather/mother of your grand kids.

As a married woman, I wake up each morning thanking God that I have a Man of God on my team, even when I'm mad at him. I love knowing that no matter how bad my day is going, I can come home to someone who has promised God that he will be there to support me. I didn't promise a piece of paper. I didn't promise my momma. I didn't even promise my husband, because I didn't have to. I promised God that I will commit myself to this marriage. That covenant is stronger than any man-made promise. It's stronger than statistics. I don't care what the percentages are, why would I set myself up to fail?

If I am conscious of a statistic, why should I allow my life to validate it?

If other people made certain choices that lead to the destruction of their own marriage, does that mean that you have to go down that same road? Why not look at that statistic and say, "Knowing that happened to other people, I need to make sure I work hard to prevent it from happening to me."

Imagine this: You have a bright younger sibling who is about to graduate from High School. You ask them, "What college are you going to?" They reply, "I'm not going to college. I don't need a degree to prove that I'm smart. Plus, too many people flunk out of college."

Who is stopping you from having the marriage you desire?

A marriage rooted in the Word is one of God's best blessings.

Legacy

hen Jesus said to His disciples, "If anyone desires to come after Me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow Me. For whoever desires to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for My sake will find it. For what profit is it to a man if he gains the whole world, and loses his own soul? Or what will a man give in exchange for his soul? For the Son of Man will come in the glory of His Father with His angels, and then He will reward each according to his works.
Matthew 16:24-27

Legacy... It's not about how much stuff you have.

Legacy is about the fruit you bear. God destined everything to produce fruit of its own kind.

Then God said, "Let the earth bring forth grass, the herb that yields seed, and the fruit tree that yields fruit according to its kind, whose seed is in itself, on the earth"; and it was so.
Genesis 1:11

So, when thinking about legacy, we have to decide what kind of fruit we want to produce and become that type of tree.

You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit.

Matthew 7:16-18

We must study the Word, it tells us what the criterion is for a good tree.

The fruit of the righteous is a tree of life, And he who wins souls is wise.
Proverbs 11:30

We must also remember that we eat our own fruit.

Who doesn't love good fruit?

" Say to the righteous that it shall be well with them,For they shall eat the fruit of their doings.
Isaiah 3:10