Marriage!

Why do people have an aversion towards marriage?

Specifically, why are Christian people developing an aversion towards marriage?

I've heard (Christian) people say:

"marriage is overrated"

"I don't need a piece of paper to make my love valid."

"Why get married when more than half of all marriages end in divorce?"

"I've never seen a happy married couple."

"Why would I want to restrict myself with marriage?"

As a married Christian, I actually feel insulted when I hear people refer to something I cherish as some sort of foul object. They say that marriage is overrated.

Well, who rated it?

Marriage is more than a piece of paper and if you don't believe that then you don't deserve the gift of marriage.

As Christians, we have to realize that life and the morals that govern our lives are not up to us to decide. We have a road map. The Bible is not just summer reading. If the Bible values and praises marriage, how can you be disdainful towards it?

Whether you go to church regularly or not, the New Testament is the foundation for Christianity. And while some ideas and passages are up for debate and left open to interpretation, the rules of marriage are not. In the Old Testament, there are even chapters dedicated to praising the value of having a good wife. Have you forgotten that marriage has been important since Genesis (2:24)?

Marriage is more than a piece of paper. It's a covenant with God. There is joy and power in promising God that you will love, honor, respect, and cherish someone. There is such beauty in knowing that you have chosen the father or mother of your children, the grandfather/mother of your grand kids.

As a married woman, I wake up each morning thanking God that I have a Man of God on my team, even when I'm mad at him. I love knowing that no matter how bad my day is going, I can come home to someone who has promised God that he will be there to support me. I didn't promise a piece of paper. I didn't promise my momma. I didn't even promise my husband, because I didn't have to. I promised God that I will commit myself to this marriage. That covenant is stronger than any man-made promise. It's stronger than statistics. I don't care what the percentages are, why would I set myself up to fail?

If I am conscious of a statistic, why should I allow my life to validate it?

If other people made certain choices that lead to the destruction of their own marriage, does that mean that you have to go down that same road? Why not look at that statistic and say, "Knowing that happened to other people, I need to make sure I work hard to prevent it from happening to me."

Imagine this: You have a bright younger sibling who is about to graduate from High School. You ask them, "What college are you going to?" They reply, "I'm not going to college. I don't need a degree to prove that I'm smart. Plus, too many people flunk out of college."

Who is stopping you from having the marriage you desire?

A marriage rooted in the Word is one of God's best blessings.